Sunday, March 2, 2014

High School Goodbyes?

How do you say bye to your best friend?

College life will most definitely entail you losing some of your high school chums and buddies. Don't bother denying it or saying no it won't happen because it will. That's one of the few harsh truths of life. People will leave.

So can you be prepared for something like this? No you cannot. You cannot in any way be prepared to say "Hey, we're in college now and I don't think we're going to be friends anymore. So goodbye!" It just doesn't work.

You'll say "Midterms", and "Extracurriculars", "Research" and a whole bunch of other words to justify why you haven't exchanged messages in weeks and why the only time you've had any kind of communication is when there's been a snapchat that's been sent to everyone on your contact list and he/she's been one of them.
It's okay to give those excuses, and I really hope you get yourself to believe them. Because if you do, you've got nothing to worry about. You've truly mastered the art of goodbyes.

The truth is simple, you've moved on. Or they have. It doesn't necessarily mean that both of you have reached a place where you don't need to talk everyday anymore. It could possibly mean that one has moved to a different space and one just has too big of an ego to try talking anymore. It all happens to everyone, and it's all a very harsh reality.

Simply put, you don't get to say goodbye. You don't get to make those final speeches that you think should be made; Thanking them for all that they've done for you and reminiscing about all the experiences you've shared together. You just hope that they remember you in some way or the other, you turn off the lights and you go to bed.

And of course, EAT. SLEEP. RAVE. REPEAT.